Author: David Lindner

MTR 032: Make The Effort

Do you have anything in your life that you want to change? Have you tried changing it, only to fall flat on your face time and time again? I have. A lot. It’s pretty easy for me to start playing the victim and blame all of my shortcomings on someone or something else. The truth is, if we sit and wait for someone to do for us what we can only do for ourselves, we’ll be sitting forever. We’ll never change. We’ll never become better men, better husbands, better fathers, and better friends. Becoming a better man doesn’t just...

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Practical Tips For Making Guy Friends

It even sounds weird to try to title this post. We’re so programmed to think that guys aren’t supposed to develop deep relationships with other men that even when we try to talk about it we get all clammy. Maybe that’s just me. But I feel it in the room every time the topic comes up amongst other men. In the last episode of the MTR podcast, we talked about this struggle. America is built on the idea of radical independence. No one shall be messing with my freedom! Of course, that value gave us the world we live...

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MTR 031: Why Is It So Hard For Men To Develop Friendships With Other Men

Thirty years ago, 55 percent of men said they had at least 6 close friends. Today, that number is 27%. Almost half of what it used to be. While the pandemic certainly exacerbated the problem, this decline has been going on for 3 decades. Research suggests that having a healthy support system is important for mental health, decreasing stress and anxiety as well as our physical health. So, what is going on? Why is it so hard for men to have deep relationships with other men? And maybe the more important question, how do we develop...

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The Dangerous Decline In Male Friendship

It’s not natural for guys to sit down for long, revealing conversations while sitting face-to-face drinking coffee at Starbucks. Many of us tend not to be the “bare your soul” types. In fact, we’ve likely been trained by society that a “real man” hides how he really feels. It’s never been natural, at least as far as I know, for men to develop deeply honest and transparent relationships with other men. Now that we’re starting to emerge from the pandemic, what some researchers are discovering is that our friendship groups have shrunk in the past couple of years, as...

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The 5 Hallmarks Of True Love

It’s Valentine’s Season, which means it’s high time for us guys to give in to the pressures of advertisements all around us. According to ads I’ve seen lately, my wife needs chocolate, flowers, dinner, vacation, alone-time, and – what she really wants – diamonds. Sorry Love. Daddy doesn’t have the funds for diamonds this year. Apparently, the only way to express love in our modern world is to buy a lot of stuff. Now, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with getting your wife or significant other a gift for Valentine’s day. Especially if their love language is gifts....

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